Noli Nothis Permittere to Terere.

Greetings,

The statement for the title of this blog is in latin and it says, "Don't let the bastards wear you down." So, this will be a discussion about people who annoy us and what to do about them. In many ways it will be more about attitudes toward things and how to deal with those inevitable nuisances which we all run into in our lives. There will be some aspects of dealing with people in those situations, but for the most part it will be focussed on the attitude a person takes to the situation.

Have a look again at the Latin statement and you will see two words which will look familiar and similar to words in English. "Nothis" looks like "nothing" and "permittere" looks like "permit", and this is where the realisation should start. The only real way that a person can really get under our skin and annoy us and get us down is if we permit them to do so. By permitting them nothing we take control ourselves we gain control of the situation. You are in control of how you are going to think and react to something use this power to your benefit. This is where your attitude to the situation becomes more important than anything else.

It is pretty much guaranteed that we will all run into those people who will annoy us or who we just simply will not get along with. Some of these people it will seem just feel like they are trying to annoy us and get in the way of what we want to do. The important thing here is that they can only annoy us and prevent us from doing what we want if we allow them to do so. There is always another path to what we want to do, it may take longer, but it will be there. For the most part the best solution is to ignore these people who annoy us and just leave them behind. Give them no credit and they will not have the power to annoy us.

Especially is the case where you are doing something that you love and there is an individual or even some individuals who are annoying you or making the thing less enjoyable because of their presence. This is one of those situations where you need to take a good hard look at things stand up and say to yourself, "I am not going to permit this so and so, this butthead, this bastard to ruin my fun." If you love something enough and enjoy something enough their presence should not hamper your enjoyment. Do not allow them to ruin something that you enjoy. The only person who has any control over that is you.

All in all the best defence against the bastards of our lives is a good attitude and some grit. Knuckle down do what you love and don't let anyone get in your way.

Cheers,

Henry.