Internet Connection: Cloak of Anonymity

Greetings,

All of us have read comments on the internet with regard to many different postings and topics which have taken us aback. The sort of comment when you read it where you wonder if the same thing would be said by the same person if the author and listener were face-to-face. I am talking about short abusive or long tirades about subjects where the thought of using courteous language has gone out the window. It is my greatest suspicion that it is due to the cloak of anonymity, or degrees of it which allow people to do this.

Online many people do not use their real names, in some way this makes them feel that they can divorce themselves from comments made and insults given. Even in some circumstances where the person is using their own name the same can be said. It is my belief that this is due to the simple fact that the two people in the conversation (author and reader) are not in direct contact so the ideas of the use of language and what should and should not be broadcast are left aside. What we say face-to-face, or even in a printed form in many cases, is quite different as compared to the high-speed, high-volume which is found on the internet.

What is most interesting is that there can be a complete change of character and personality of a person when comparing their electronic communications as to speaking to them face-to-face. For the most part the face-to-face contact with the person is quite a bit more personable than the electronic. I would state that this has something to do with consequences, a slip of a word or insult in an electronic medium has less consequence than the same if it was face-to-face. Some would claim that this is an advance in the freedom of speech, I would say that it is a reduction in courtesy and consideration for the audience who may be subject to such communications.

Many people have not met face-to-face, while they have conversed for periods of time across the electronic medium. Meeting face-to-face in many instances actually changes the relationship between the individuals quite a bit. The classic instance of this is the internet love affair where the pair in the relationship finally meet face-to-face and find out the truth. It does not always work, as we all well know. The reverse is also true having met a person in person and then contacting them across an electronic medium is different to having contact with a person whom you have never met in person. In many ways it is because the person is more "real". The voice on the end of a phone/microphone or words on a screen just do not have the same impact.

While I will admit that I have been guilty of some faceless tirades, often I will go back and read the same and wonder why I did it and where all of that came from. Remember, the written word lasts a lot longer than you might suspect, and can be used later on. Many public figures have been caught with regard to this. I would suggest that in such communications if a person sat back, examined the situation from a more neutral standpoint, there might be quite a change as to what was written and the resulting furore which may result. When posting, consider your audience, consider the impression of yourself you are creating, and consider whether you would say the same to the same person face-to-face if you were to ever meet them.

Cheers,

Henry.